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yesterday, after reading wen's blog entries and after watching the hong kong tv dramma 識法代言人, i have many thoughts.

from wen's blog, i realised many things that she had kept from the family. i found out that her relation with mummy and daddy is worse than what i had thought. but deep inside, she actually longed for their understanding and concern. indeed i do feel that among the four of us, wen was the most neglected child especially after the quarrals with my parents. being the second, she was under the pressure of having an elder sister whose studies is a lot more better than her (no wonder there was once she complaint that i had inherited all the good genes from mom and dad); and not being the younger ones, she rarely gets the approperiate amount of love she deserves

wen tends to talk back when dad is reprimanding her. is she being rebellious? "NO!" said the father Mr Shen in the tv. in fact, children who hurt their parents most are those who wouldnt even talk back to their parents; they totally ignored their parents. they keep everthing from their parents and want no interference.one should always remember: Grudges against parents should never last long. the child should learn to share their happiness and sorrows with their. being the brightest (it's a fact okay...), my parents tends to leave mi alone; rarely ask for my result or where am i going or why am i still not home when it is late at night. because im very responsible for myself, they give mi a lot of freedom outside. as compared, wen is in her rebellious stage and my parents therefore were strict on her, as if they have totally no trust in her. but i feel that she should also reflect her feelings to them, telling them that she wants more trust and love from them. communication play a great role in our family, since we rarely talk to each other like some other families. but no one ever take the first step.

on the other hand, i also feel that my parents had use a wrong approach when showing concern to wen. parents should not blame or chide the child even though the child had done sth wrong. quoting from the tv, the father told his son who was sent to a drug rehabilitation centre, " im responsible for what happened to you. if we had better communication, you wouldnt have been in this state." Mr Shen had told us that strict discipline might not always work on the child; communication and understanding work best. Most importantly, parents should share the child's life and heartbeat. with that only they could understand each other better and reduce the misunderstanding between the two generations. i noe that mom and dad are as concerned with wen. it is juz that she was never there to see how the two are being worried over her.

i dun noe what to do and i dun noe how to resolve the misunderstanding between the two parties. im not a counsellor nor a interpreter. family matters is never a simple case to solve especially by a third party. is it true that parents are suspose to pay back the debts that they owned the child in their previous lifetime?

taKe mi aWay..Friday, March 16, 2007.15:24